The phenomenon of internet predators that fabricate online identities and entire social circles to trick people into emotional/romantic relationships (over a long period of time). Possible motivations: revenge, loneliness, curiosity, boredom
Blogging world.People are really casual here we believe what we read and we assume that what people write is how they actually are in real life.But are we?? A lot of us use a fake name and usually we're open about it sometimes we're not why is that? Does not using the real name makes our posts less true? Does a name really matters that much?? What if a blog is an escape from our life with our regular name and blogging under a different name is just refreshing after a long mundane day of work?
Whatever the reason be people do use fake names on the internet. So are we all Catfishing?Trying to catch some lost soul's attention?Trying to get over that boredom? People do Catfishing I agree but how to identify the real deal and catfishers? that's what is tough. I'm no expert but I can pretend to be one after Googling it and here's what I have to say about spotting a Catfish online : - They would refuse to talk to you on phone. - They won't tell you where they live or tell you they're moving every now and then. - They would tell you they love you after just a couple of hours of chat. - Might ask for cash online. - Tell you rare physical attributes him/herself. eg. weighing less than 50kg and being over 6ft at the same time. - Their profile picture is of some object or is text.They might also use some random person from the internet to set as their profile picture.In this case ask for another same picture of the person and since he/she has shared one picture with you,he/she shouldn't have problem sharing another. - Asks a lot of personal stuff about you without telling you some about him/herself. - Their new posts after starting chatting with you and older one's have don't match up - They seem unsure about their own history and past - Makes plan to go out with you but flakes at the last moment.
Is there only one kind of Catfish you ask? No!There are a lot different kind of Catfish : - Lonely kind : Usually lurks behind people and tend not to talk to people in real life but have a real active online life. - Creepy Romantic Kind : Usually tell people they're everything they were looking for in life and try having intimate relationships online. - Scary Kind : Likes to break hearts and tell awful stuff. - and many more
Is catfishing bad? Yes,really bad you play with someone's emotions which is never good online or offline.
Is it bad getting Catfished? Yes!
So my real question is should we avoid all kind of online friendships??Assume anyone with a fake name is Catfishing?? My initial plan with this blog was avoiding all kinds of friendships and just post comics but you know how that changed with time and I took the name Neal Kind.It took me time to warm up to blogging people.So am I a Catfisher?I don't know that's for you to decide.. Are you a catfisher? That's for me to decide fortunately I don't think you any of you are.
Can I do something to help you decide whether I'm one or not? Yes I can do a lot of things.. But am I that desperate? No.. But will I? Yes Why? Because there are a lot of amazing people here I've met via blogging and they deserve to know if they're catfished or not and make an informed decision.
So this is me trying to do right by those amazing people and this is all I can do while still maintaining my privacy
So what are your views on catfishing? This is serious and important! Be aware be safe :)